The Swirl – It’s Part of the Unraveling

Shame storm, shit show – call it what you will. When the day gets dark and the clouds are closing in, it’s just plain scary. It becomes a show-down between your feelings, thoughts and reality! The hurricane inside your head, your stomach and your body swirls like a category 5 –  And only YOU have control.

I’ve been through my share of what Brene Brown calls shame storms – albeit most of them self-imposed. Or I have allowed it to happen. Someone once said to me in the heat of the moment, “I can’t make you feel anything, but I sure can try.”

BINGO!

Time stopped. The air became still. My head began spinning. Was it realizing this person I had trusted was manipulating my feelings? Sure, I could have played the blame game.  But NO, it was the moment I realized that only I had control of my feelings, thoughts and reactions. It empowered me to take back my power and stop leaving it on the table for someone else to control. [Read more…]

Party of 1

Have you ever traveled by yourself? Sat in a restaurant and had a meal by yourself? Or gotten in the car and just driven… with no particular destination?

I have written before about the importance of silence and solitude. Taking myself away for 24 hours – alone with no phone, no computer, no tv, no nothing – THAT was the start of my YES I CAN journey. It allowed me to focus on me with no outside “noise” or distractions.

While driving up to Northern California on Easter weekend, I had that same feeling and desire. I needed to escape, disappear, and find myself yet again. I was now a single woman with new dreams, goals and visions. I had a new independence I was ready to celebrate.   I contemplated throwing everything in the car and just driving to destinations unknown. No plan, no map – just go. But realizing that was not the smartest decision a single woman could make, the next best thing was to escape to the mountains. Park City Utah to be exact, a place I’d been before and found great solitude and peace. But this time, I wanted adventure as well. [Read more…]

Own Your Crazy

Are there days you feel crazy? Maybe a little silly? Days where you question yourself, your decisions, your brilliance, your life?

A couple weeks ago, I was in the car listening to the radio way too loudly. Actually, it was Spotify and my daughter’s country favorites list. As a listener on her account, she keeps me connected with all the new favorite songs (yes, we actually love the same music). That day, a new song came on that caught my attention. This young woman was belting out all about “owning it” – who cares what they say, we shouldn’t listen anyway, that yes we may all be a little dysfunctional but the point…. that it’s all ok and we need to OWN it – all of it – our crazy, our coolness, our dysfunction, our brilliance and more. Part of the lyrics…… [Read more…]

Pass the Potatoes, No Expectations Please

Happy Thanksgiving Day Logotype,Hard to believe we are coming into the home stretch of 2016! The holidays are upon us – with Thanksgiving tomorrow!

As I was reflecting this morning on the coming days, I was reminded to drop the expectations and just be grateful for the moments. Many of us will spend the holiday with family and friends. Some of us will conjure up expectations of how we want the holiday to go. Nice words, everyone getting along, the perfect meal, and more. Then what happens? Something gets said that is taken personally, someone doesn’t show up on time or at all, the perfect meal doesn’t have that perfect experience…. and we become disappointed. [Read more…]

Who Are Your Sisters?

soar-sisters-finalThis past weekend, I had the honor of spending 3 days in retreat. But this wasn’t any ordinary retreat. It was the final retreat of the SOAR Elite group – a program led by my Business Coach, Joy Chudacoff.  This was a program I had been a part of for the last 6 years. A program that included a group of ladies I have the privilege of calling my sisters.

These ladies have been there during my highest highs and lowest lows – in business and in life. In reflecting on why these ladies had become my sisters, I realized it was founded on three foundations. Faith, trust and hope. [Read more…]

Take Off the Mask

bootsI love Halloween! A fun holiday to “show-up” as you might like to be. Or not.

I have most always dressed up for Halloween – from Pinky Tuscadero when I was a youth, to a gypsy, to Carmen Miranda as an adult (the Chiquita banana lady – fruit on my head and all!)…and the list goes on. (Do you see the trend?)  Even yesterday, while I didn’t have an “official” costume, I found myself looking at my closet thinking what could I wear. [Read more…]

Are You Impulsive or Decisive?

Regret or no regrets saying sorry and offer apologize being ashaImpulsive: actuated or swayed by emotional or involuntary impulses

Decisive: characterized by or displaying no or little hesitation; resolute; determined:

I recently had a conversation with someone about making decisions impulsively, or decisively and the pros and cons to both. Let me explain.
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Who Are You?

Be True To Who You Are placard with bokeh backgroundDoes the song by The Who start playing in your head? It did for me. But it’s a serious question. Are you showing up as you – or someone else? Fact is if you are trying to be someone other then who you really are at your core, things won’t truly flow.

I recently pondered that question. Who am I? How do I show up? What do I want to experience in life? Who am I meant to serve? What is holding me back?

Let me introduce you to the REAL Cathy Alessandra: I am a mother of three kids in their 20’s, an entrepreneur of 20+ years and a California girl who loves the ocean and anything that sparkles! I love playing the piano and dancing (not at the same time), playing the car radio loudly and singing along, traveling, entertaining in my home and hanging out with friends. I wear my heart on my sleeve and I am passionate and purpose-driven.  My values are faith, family, freedom and making a difference! What do I want to experience? Joy, love, fulfillment… and a bucket list a mile long! What holds me back? When I allow myself to get into that place of fear and doubt – same as many of you.

My personal mission is to inspire and motivate 1000’s of women to create and live their YES I CAN life! I’ve been there.  I’ve walked in the trenches of heartache and sorrow, I’ve celebrated the joy of transformation and transition. It’s a DAILY task to move forward, through our fear and doubt, every single day. And it’s my mission to support others to do the same – to live their best  life, one YES at a time!

So – who are you? How do you show up? Is it aligned with who you really are – deep down within? I encourage you to ask yourself the same questions and write out your personal description and mission statement. Then ask yourself, is this how I’m showing up? If it is, congrats. If not, it’s time for a shift!

If you are ready to work “on” you and creating your best life in all areas, I hope you will consider joining me at The Yes I Can Experience. It can be life-changing for those ready to live their YES!

Quit Chasing the Squirrel

Portrait Of Eurasian Red Squirrel.sciurus VulgarisWhen the weather is nice, I love to sit outside for my morning “routine” of reading inspiration, quiet meditation and prayer. But something kept interrupting my quiet time today. The neighbor dog and the squirrel.

As I sat quietly, I heard a big ruckus. The small dog next door was chasing the squirrel back up the fence and onto the telephone pole. The dog would growl and the squirrel was making a screeching noise back at the dog. This happened a half dozen times, the squirrel taunting the dog and the dog chasing the squirrel, until the neighbor finally let the dog back in the house. (A little game of cat and mouse for sure – every pun intended!) [Read more…]

Do You Dare Greatly?

Empty sunset grand soccer arena in lights“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” Theodore Roosevelt

That is an excerpt from a speech given by Theodore Roosevelt, our 26th President. Wise words. And a good reminder at a time when everyone seems to be a “critic”. [Read more…]