Drug abuse and addiction is a family affair. When one is using, the whole family can suffer. You do everything you can to “fix” the problem. You threaten, you bribe, you make deals, and you love. You ride a roller coaster of emotions.
I'm Cathy Alessandra. I am many things - a Certified Life & Professional Recovery Coach, an entrepreneur, a daughter, a volunteer .... but I am also a mother who faced this challenge with her child.
Facing the challenges of a son or daughter using and/or abusing drugs or alcohol can cause extreme anxiety, fear and frustration. Mothers tend to suffer in silence out of shame, embarrassment, guilt and hopelessness. Having support from others who are experiencing or have experienced similar challenges can help.
I have been there. I have walked in your shoes. I experienced the dark days and long nights. I came to understand that his drug use was not my fault and it was his journey. I had my own journey to take - one of taking control of myself. It became a journey of learning how to love, show empathy and provide support without "enabling". It became a journey of learning how to communicate, set boundaries and lower my expectations.
Coaching is not therapy. It is an opportunity to explore and find answers in a collaborative partnership, helping you to identify what is happening now and what you want for the future. Coaching is a thought-provoking and creative process with the strictest levels of confidentiality.
ReDirect Life is an 4 week small group program. This program is designed to help mothers whose child is struggling with use, abuse or addiction. In this program, you will:
Gain a better understanding of his/her behavior
Learn new ways to communicate with your child
Learn how to set boundaries for your family
Learn how to manage your emotions in this high-stress situation
Gain support with tools and resources for you and your family
This group program is $120 for 4 weeks and includes your workbook, resource lists and other materials. It is held on Thursday evenings from 7p-8:30pm in Torrance near Torrance Airport. After completion of this 4 week program, you may join our weekly support group.
Whether a child is using, abusing or addicted to drugs and/or alcohol, the worry, fear and anxiety can be overwhelming. As a mother, trying to “save” your child becomes your number #1 priority. You try to take charge and many times it fails.
Sobriety is a daily choice, one that only the user can make. Eventually we come to understand it isn't anyone's fault - and the million “what-if’s” don’t matter. But the guilt, shame and judgement of others can put any mother into a place of feeling hopeless, helpless and alone.
Cathy's private 1:1 coaching sessions are designed to offer education and resources, but more importantly, a safe environment for self-discovery, support and sharing.
During our sessions, some of the topics we will explore are:
Key warning signs and symptoms of use and abuse in your child
Establishing healthy, firm boundaries for your family
Resources for your family
Techniques to better manage your stress and emotions
Coaching sessions are in person or via phone and are 1 hour. The cost is $90/session. To schedule your first session, click here. Upon payment, you will receive an email with a link to Cathy's calendar!
Are you discouraged, frustrated, baffled and feeling helpless? You are not alone!
Here are some things you should know....
Statistics show that over 75% of American youth under 18 have used alcohol or smoked marijuana or tried other drugs.
Addiction and abuse have many faces. It's not just the "rich" kids or those on the street. It affects every gender, race, religion, economic and geographic group. It has the potential to affect anyone.
Our society is addicted to pornography, food, gambling, video games, social media and more. Yet the abuse and addiction of alcohol and drugs holds a stigma that makes getting help more shameful.
More then half of all people who smoke marijuana are likely to develop problems with alcohol than those who do not.
The younger the age of first use, the greater the struggle for mental, emotional and physical development. Many adolescents will begin using alcohol or drugs in middle school.
"You didn't cause it, you can't control it, you can't cure it - but you can control how you respond." Alanon